Let’s be honest with ourselves. Life is HARD! Life can be and often is RIDICULOUSLY DIFFICULT!! Truth is WE ALL STRUGGLE! Not a single of us on this earth has gone without struggle. What differs is the level of the struggle – the DEPTH of it! The reason for the struggle differs. The length of the struggle differs. The outcome of the struggle differs. Don’t full yourselves; LIFE CAN DEBILITATE YOU! And even more frightening than that realization, is the absolute fact that life can and will, at some point, BLINDSIDE YOU!
But I will not take you on that journey now… no digressing today!
What are you going to do with those lemons?
So, here’s the thing. As difficult as life can be, I’m learning that you can change your perspective. I first learned of this revelation nearly five years ago at my church and I must admit I was dumbfounded. You mean to tell me that the way I see the world is not the way I have to see the world? How is that possible? I’m not being silly here…. I genuinely thought my inner dialogue, point of view, and genuine pessimism were a fixed set of “values.” Lets’ be honest, we all do – until we DON’T! What makes you change your point of view? Nothing less than – CHOICE. It really is that clear and simple. When the monkeys start chattering their little negative opinions in your head, about the lemons the enemy just handed you, what will you do?
It’s amazing how subtle choices can improve your point of view. The choice to either hold onto the lemons or simply hand them over to God … choosing to have faith that He will make the best of them. And what about those damn monkeys? Seriously, if you’ve had them in your head at any point in your life – TELL THEM TO SHUT THE HELL UP! I’m not kidding, go to drastic measures!
My monkeys have been negative naysayers for as long as I can remember and the enemy has always guided their dialogue. I’m often stunned by the enemy’s ability to use my weaknesses against me. Always pointing out why I should expect nothing good from life. Accepting that I was somehow cursed because my family felt cursed. Cursed why? Not because they were plagued by bad circumstances but because they chose the wrong point of view? The wrong perspective! They chose to accept the nonsense on repeat in their heads – I’m not good enough – I’m unworthy – I’m unlovable – I’m broken – I’m ashamed – I don’t deserve better – This is the life I’ve been handed – No good can ever happen to me – There is nothing worth living for…. The list goes on and on!
When you realize that choices (or lack of) can and will lead to the struggle or at the very least make it worse; you learn to take pause. Take pause and reflect on what you gained from the situation. Choose to see your life from God’s point of view! From your point of view, you see that something has been taken from you but from God’s point of view, you know that something has been given to you…. Given to you in LOVE! I truly believe that in every circumstance; in the depth of every struggle, you can find a wide range of give and take. A rosebush cannot grow lush without pruning. A seed cannot take root and flourish if it doesn’t shed its shell. We are so afraid of “the take” part of our journey; never wanting to sacrifice the dead dry things for beauty and wonder.
So take a moment to pause and reflect on what you think has been taken from you. Then turn away from it and instead turn towards what God is giving you. Simply choose to see God’s favor in EVERYTHING!
“For his anger is but for a moment, and his favor is for a lifetime. Weeping may tarry for the night, but joy comes with the morning.” Psalms 30:5
“In him we have obtained an inheritance, having been predestined according to the purpose of him who works all things according to the counsel of his will.” Ephesians 1:11